More tips on the best ways to raise your children & help them
live their fullest
If you have a child amongst you today, it is something karmic. Now, it is your responsibility, as
parents, to maintain cordial relationship amongst yourselves, stay together and bring that child up
in complete love and harmony.
In our last article, we underlined the impact of effective parenting on children, why is it important to
raise yourself before raising your children, and also touched upon a few golden rules to become a
Today, we will take this further and complete the list of things to do for every parent and ways in
which this can help them shape up their child’s future.
The parenting rulebook
The first two rule that we spoke about was about being more conscious of your moods, actions and
reactions and take complete charge over them to ensure that you only transmit positive vibes to
your children. The second rule explained how anger can cause long-term damage to your children
and why we should choose to strike a conversation with our children instead of reacting in anger.
Rule 3: TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN, NOT AT THEM
As parents, we get so obsessed with instructing our children and telling them what to do and not do,
that we seldom talk to them. How about inviting and involving them in a discussion? Treating them
as equals, asking for their views and respecting it, and buying their opinion whenever possible?
Doing this will add up to their self-esteem and bring them closer.
Rule 4: PROMISES ARE MADE TO BE KEPT
How does a broken promise feel?
Breaking promises make your children loose their trust in you and they stop taking you seriously. So,
only make those promises that can be kept. By keeping promises, you indirectly teach them the
value of keeping your word. Just in case, you are unable to fulfil a promise, confess it and make a
Rule 5: ALWAYS HAVE FAITH IN YOUR CHILDREN
Just a pat on your child’s back or a hand on his head is enough to keep him going through the highs
and lows of life. Trust your child, have confidence, and tell him that you know that he can do it. Your
confidence in your child rebuilds a new energy in him which helps him achieve the impossible.
Rule 6: RESPECT YOUR CHILD’S LIMITATIONS
Everyone cannot be Albert Einstein or a Neil Armstrong. Children have their own strengths and
limitations. Respect that. Know your child’s reality and never force false expectations on him.
Rule 7: BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR MISTAKES
Did you make a mistake? Admit it.
Hiding a mistake from your children and covering up for it sets a wrong example for them. As you
accept it, you also teach your children to accept their own mistakes, learn from it & go ahead in life.
Rule 8: RESPECT YOUR CHILD’S FAILURES
How do you feel when you fail? Terrible, isn’t it? So does your child.
It is not acceptable to make him feel more guilty or terrible about it when he has already hit his low.
Instead, hold his hand and assure him that it shall pass. Give him strength and support when he
needs it the most.
Rule 9: RESPECT YOUR SPOUSE
Most important of all, respect your spouse. There is no bigger pain for children than to see their
parents argue and fight. Worst of all, they think that it is because of them and suffer silently in guilt.
The best childhood is spent in a loving home where parents respect each other and live in harmony.